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Communications and Experiences Free-For-All

I want to invite you to join me on Thursday, January 20 from 11:00 am – noon (EST) for an online creative coaching meeting. I’ll do my best to answer your questions from my experience at Seacoast and from connecting with other churches. We’ll also have some other Seacoast staffers online (and maybe even some other church communication proffessionals) to help field questions. I find that a lot of us are asking the same questions, this will be a great way to connect with other churches, get some answers and maybe if we are lucky even some more questions.

There is no cost for the meeting, but you will need to sign up in advance. I want to keep the size of the meeting pretty small so we can have space to get to everyone’s questions and learn from one another.

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You don’t like change

You don’t like change.  You say you do and often you think you do, but truth is we all have a place on the change journey that feels like we have gone far enough when (to quote the great Karen Carpenter) “We’ve only just begun”.

I have been thinking a lot about change recently.  How does it happen?  Why do we resist it?  Why is it so easy to tweak – and does that ever lead to real change?

One observation that I have made is that there seems to be a curve of sorts related to change that looks a little like this:

During the low-hanging fruit stage (LHFS) we all like change (except for those just adverse to change at all).  That is why the board hires the young new pastor to come “change” things but are blown away when he moves out of the LHFS, they think he will stay in the safe zone and tweak away. Tweak land is comfort land.

But at some point we have to actually make real and radical change (if we want to actually change) and leave behind the low-hanging fruit.  That is where most of us (me included) stop.  That is fun, safe and everyoine like you.  You gave them their tweaks and no more.  Good job. Now go away. We think we have changed.  We think we are making continuous improvements when in reality it is  just starting to be “go time”.

That is when it gets very hard.  The number of followers excited with with you reduce drastically.  It actually goes to bottom at some point and you may be the only one who believes in the change – until you have success.

Success then breads success and in an uptake all of the sudden there is growth and lots of adoption to this “new idea” (most people will never know the whole journey thta’s ok) until we ultimately make the drastic change so successful that is becomes the base-line and we plateau – thus needing to change again…

Have you found yourself dropping out too soon on an idea?  How do you motivate yourself to push through?  What is a big change you have made and seen this play out?

My “helper fit for him”

I have been married to my “helper fit for him”, best friend and sweetheart Connie for almost 15 years and we dated for nearly 5 years so this October we will celebrate 20 years together. We have been through a few seasons together in life and ministry. There are some things I have learned as it relates to our marriage that I think may be helpful to note:

Season One: In our early days of ministry Connie was very involved in every aspect of THE ministry. She was a key volunteer for ministry areas outside of the area I was responsible for and sometimes we would even “pass in the night” in our ministry efforts. In fact for a couple of months each summer we would spend 12 weeks speaking and teaching at camps and she was a Bible study leader on the same team, but as a completely separate functional team for the camp. We did not have a house (we rented a very small apartment) so there was not a lot of house work, we did not have children and for most of the time we did not even have a dog. We were very flexible and thus she was very involved. This was a cool season, but I don’t miss it. It drained our relationship in many ways because we were not sharing in the same struggles together so we were bringing separate baggage and issues and then combining them. That was exhausting.

Season Two: When we moved to Seacoast Church in 2001 we moved into a new phase of our ministry life. Connie became a key leader in MY ministry. I differentiate this from the earlier “THE ministry” in that she now filled roles that I needed her to fill as a part of the ministry area that I was leading. She changed roles several times based on what I needed someone that I really trusted to do. We still did not have a house, no kids and high flexibility. Our time was spent in late-night conversations with leaders, teens and even sporadic decision to go to movies with other twenty-something after group meetings at 10:00 pm…it was fun and we were in some ways doing ministry together so it was very rewarding. I would not give that season up for anything – but I must admit I don’t miss it. It too was exhausting.

Season Three: In 2005 we enetered in to a new season that we are still figuring out. This season came about because we bought a house, had a child (now two) and started to see that we were running a sprint and needed a shift. We prayed and made the decision that we felt that Connie should not work outside the home so that she could be a full-time mom and so we started on a journey to get to that place. We started building relationships with older wiser people instead of hanging out with only people our age because we realized that the blind could not lead the blind and Connie stepped out of most of her church ministry roles to become Mom and my helper. It honestly has been the the most rewarding season. Looking back I realize that I had not been man enough to admit how much I needed Connie to be MY helper. I am a high “D” personality on the DISC scale. Basically that means I don’t need a lot of people’s praise and I really don’t care a whole bunch about what you think. Connie is the exception. I care what she thinks about everything. I need her to come and see me and tell me that she and the kids prayed for me before I speak. That makes the difference for me. I need her afterwards to tell me I did a good job and then I need her to tell me what I can do better. She is the helper I need. The helper fit for me. I know this may be slightly controversial, but I think that is what she was created to do.

If you are married, what season are you in? Does it fit your family values? (post of our family values coming soon)

Movement or Museum

I had the honor in May of 2010 to preach at my home church, First Baptist Church of Moncks Corner, for their 90th year anniversary.

As I looked back over the last 36 years of my life and reflected on the events that God had chosen to allow to happen for me in that church I was struck by the incredible influence that God has had over me through this church.

I was born (not literally but almost) in this church and attended every weekend of my life, I was baptized, preached my first public sermon, licensed to ministry, saw the first person I ever led to Christ baptized and then married the same women in this church. I attended the funeral of my grandfather, my best friend in the world at that time, and preached the funeral of one of the best men the world has ever known (my uncle Herbie) in this church.  I would say that I have left pieces of my soul in that church.

As I reflected on this place what I saw was that since 1920 this place had been in many ways a movement.  But I also warned that just as quickly it can be a museum.

Then I remembered Hard Rock cafe Dallas.

In 1999 I first went to Hard Rock cafe in Dallas and immediately knew something was up with this place.
As I looked around, there were stained glass windows (of King Elvis, but stained glass all the same) and the place just felt like a church.  A little research showed me that in fact this had been just that – a vibrant fast growing church. Planted in 1906 and quickly growing to over 1000 in attendance this place had been the location of Mckinney Avenue Baptist Church.

Now I was eating buffalo wings and French fries while I stared at Madonna’s pointy breasted costume.

What had happened? Somewhere along the way the church had declined, merged with another local baptist church, moved out of the city and rented and then sold this building.  Other churches had used the building but finally worship had ceased until finally in the early 1990′s Hard Rock cafe had moved in and worship had resumed.  Worship of rock-n-roll – but worship all the same.

So the question for the church as we stand at this place in history is will the church continue to be a movement of artists who are working in a studio creating great works of art or will it become a museum where we stand back at look at the monuments of the old days.  Will the men of the church rather encouraging young Rembrant’s to paint in ways that has never been done before in fact simply become curators of the old art protecting it all costs.

If we are just curators of old museum relics of the past – good gracious lets cancel this stuff and find something better to do – church is an awful hobby.

When Church is a hobby…

- Methods are valued over principles. HOW we do something over the outcomes.

- Programs are valued over progress.  We sure aren’t going anywhere but at least we know where we are going.

- Policy is valued over people. Roberts rules of order become more important than Robert.  Jesus died for Robert, not his rules.

- When evaluating anything new we ask “who will leave” rather than “who will come”.

Curators protect methods, programs and policies.

I believe with all my heart that the Church is one generation away from losing an entire generation of young people, maybe even less time if we do not do something.  That something is to be a movement.   Create new songs.  Create new works of art called revitalized families and regenerated individuals.

I pray we are always artists and never curators, God help us.

10 Commandments of a Weekend Experience (repost)

In 2009 I wrote a series of posts on the “10 Commandments of a Weekend Experience”. As we draw near to Easter Weekend I thought that we could revisit these to make sure we are ready for guests…

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Wasabi Gospel

I love Japanese food.

I also love hanging out with people.  I am an introvert who likes to be exhausted. (If you understand what I mean, you are probably one too.)

Finally, I love new and eclectic foods.  I will try just about anything once.

Put all of these together on a Thursday night in 1996, and you have the makings of a great story. I love a great story.

I had just taken a position at a church as their “Singles and Recreation Pastor”. (There are so many things wrong with that title alone, I know, but I just can’t go there right now…maybe later.)  I had been single all of about fifteen minutes in my life.   In fact at the ripe old age of twenty-two, I was celebrating my second anniversary of being happily married to the only girl I ever dated for more than a month.

As you can see, I was made to be a Singles Pastor.

But this was a combo job so I also was in charge of recreation.  I know what you are thinking, basketball, football, softball and other words that end in ball.  There was a lot of that but there was also the recreation that was the pottery class with the older single ladies.  And by single I mean widowed.  I can honestly say that this was one of the strangest discoveries that I had after taking the position.  Not that there is anything wrong with pottery.  It just was not on my radar as a career choice.


Being new to the church, I really wanted to meet some people and I found out that there was a group of singles who went out for Japanese food once a month and they invited the new pastor to come along.  This proved to be an interesting evening.

As we were all looking at the menus the waitress came around and asked if anyone would like something from the sushi menu.  Now you need to understand that I am from the low country of South Carolina.  We eat a lot of fish and a lot of shrimp.  We can catch the stuff in our own back-yards.  I even ate crawdads out of a ditch more than once as a child, which may explain a lot, but with all of the aforementioned crustaceans and swimming beasts …they were cooked (including the crawdads)!

Sushi had just made its way to the south, another invasion of Northern Aggression, and every one around me was pressuring me like I was a teenager getting ready to drink his first beer to eat sushi.  But as I said, I will try anything once so I ordered me up some dead, raw fish.  Yes, not so appealing if you call like it is…

I have always wondered if the Japanese, with their penchant for great electronics, have hidden cameras in these restaurants to capture silly Americans eating dead, raw fish for the first time.  If so, they should start a show.  It would be a ratings giant.  Especially if this night had been caught on camera.

So they brought out my plate of what appeared to be some shrimp that had lost a battle with a blob of rice, and sat it in front of me.  Everyone was talking and laughing and enjoying their sushi, so I was on my own to take my time.  Off to the side of the plate, there was a small little dollop of what appeared to be Japanese butter. Cute.

For some reason they had dyed it green, who knows why, but that was not my primary concern.

If it had been 2009 rather than 1996, I would have figured it was just another wild haired off-shoot of the “green” movement, but since it was 1996 I figured the Japanese just liked their butter a little on the molded side.  I had eaten blue cheese, so why not green butter?

I was getting ready to eat dead, raw fish–who cares about the color of the butter?  However, one thing I have learned in the south is that butter can cover a multitude of sins and tasteless food.  So like any red-blooded American, I spread every bit of that green Japanese butter on top of my shrimp, got it real close to my mouth, inhaled, and shoved it in.

There are not sufficient words in the English language that I can use to describe to you the amount of shock that enveloped my body.  It was as if liquid lava were being created in my throat and mouth and all oxygen had been taken out of the air while Ultimate Fighting Champion Randy Couture beat me in the throat and gut. As I sat gasping for air I felt as though I may never be the same again.  It was as if I were in the middle of one of those bad dreams where everyone around you is moving in slow motion and you can not communicate to them.  I tried to let people know that I may have just eaten lava but I could not breathe much less talk.  Involuntary tears began to run down my cheeks, and life as I knew it stopped for just a few moments.  Cute little Japanese butter.  Also known as… wasabi.

If you have eaten wasabi, you are commiserating with me as you laugh as well.  It’s all good–laugh away.  I lived.

If you have not eaten wasabi, just imagine blending habenero and jalapeño peppers in your Cuisinart, mixing that into a jar of horseradish, then adding some actual liquid fire for good measure, and you will get the picture..

This small, innocent, seemingly insignificant, cute little dollop was actually a concentrated, power-packed, punch-you-in-the-gut, life-altering experience.

I have never forgotten that moment.

Close to ten years later, while I was reading some of the words of Jesus, I had a similar experience. I was studying the Bible, just minding my own business when a small, innocent, seemingly insignificant, cute little dollop of scripture I had read many, many times before became a concentrated, power-packed, punch-you-in-the-gut, life-altering experience. I had read the words many times before.  They were cute.  They were innocent and seemingly insignificant.  Then it hit me.  It almost startled me what Jesus was saying.  I took a shot to the spiritual gut that rocked my world and made me realize that this tiny bit of scripture was actually a wasabi-punch to my soul. It changed my life.  It was as if Jesus had just slapped me and I wondered… should I turn the other cheek?

I have never forgotten that moment.

On a quest to really examine the words of Jesus and their impact on our lives, this book will look at several small scriptures that pack a very big punch.

I pray it takes your breath away.

200 Pomegranates

Everyone longs to live a life of meaning and purpose, to leave something of real worth behind when we’re gone.

All too often, we feel that our day-to-day tasks make no difference in the great scheme of things. The truth is exactly the opposite—God has given each of us extraordinary power to create beauty and transform the world through our daily work and ordinary actions.

You have immense potential to develop your God-given talents and contribute something that makes a difference in the world, be it through construction or counseling, doing people’s taxes carefully and ethically, or raising and teaching children. Even if your contribution seems to go unnoticed by others, you can rest assured that God sees and values your work.

200 Pomegranates and an Audience of One draws on the story of obscure Old Testament figure Huram of Tyre, an artist putting the finishing touches on Solomon’s temple. He honed his craft and contributed something of beauty and excellence, though some of his most detailed and time-consuming work was more than thirty feet off the ground, where few people would notice its intricacies.

Likewise, we have the ability and opportunity to create something of worth, be it for the lasting enjoyment of others or for God’s eyes only. We may not all be artistic in the traditional sense, but we are nonetheless creators, made in the image of God the Creator and endowed with skills and talents that can honor God and impact our world.

Every good mom is an artist, molding her children as creations of God. Every ethical businessperson leaves a legacy of people seeing God through his or her careful work. Every after-school teacher leaves an indelible mark on the young people whose parents are busy just making ends meet.

You too are an artist, equipped with a palette of skills and strengths that can honor God and impact the world in amazing ways. Where will you make your mark?

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Huram cast two bronze pillars, each 27 feet tall and 18 feet in circumference. For the tops of the pillars he cast bronze capitals, each 7½ feet tall. Each capital was decorated with seven sets of latticework and interwoven chains…The capitals on the two pillars had 200 pomegranates in two rows around them, beside the rounded surface next to the latticework. Huram set the pillars at the entrance of the Temple, one toward the south and one toward the north. He named the one on the south Jakin, and the one on the north Boaz. The capitals on the pillars were shaped like water lilies. And so the work on the pillars was finished.” — I Kings 7:15-17, 20-22, New Living Translation